I work for a hospice and we had a Remembrance Event for the families of our past patients to honor their loved ones. I wrote this poem for the event and shared it there. Perhaps it will speak to some of your hearts also.
Remembering Is the Tribute
The loved one: mother, father, husband, wife,
brother, sister, friend
whose place is empty now
exited life and took with them the treasure
of your shared life – your history together.
It was not a perfect life but it was
unique to you and them.
The wonderful and the tragic,
the interesting and the boring,
the things you understand and the things you do not,
the frustrating and the fun.
Today is a time amid laughter and tears
to remember not the sickness or death
but their life story;
the chapters you starred in together
and those you simply observed or heard about.
Share with us and each other your memories:
perhaps the things you miss the most or
your favorite quote or a funny story
or the thing you respected about them the most,
whatever comes to mind.
This is the greatest form of tribute,
honoring their lives through memory.
Diantha L. Zschoche